I think we need a professional reality check.

We are close to being in what is considered organizational "crises" at this point. We need new club members…

There are people who help organizations like ours.

Organizations like the DeVos Institute facilitate a planning process that help not for profits like us.
http://www.devosinstitute.umd.edu/What-We-Do/Services-For-Organizations

The Institute’s planning process includes: (Taken from their site…)

A thorough review of the organization’s mission
An environmental analysis that evaluates the relevant field and determines what is required for success in that field—today and in the future
An internal analysis that determines how the client organization compares, at present, to what is required for success, as defined by the environment
Detailed strategies that position the organization to overcome its weaknesses and exploit its strengths
An implementation plan that outlines tactics required to execute each strategy, assigning responsibility for each, and a deadline for their completion
A financial plan that accounts for the programmatic and capacity implications of each strategy, as well as the benefits expected as a result

To augment the benefits of planning, the DeVos Institute also provides implementation support to assist staff and board members as they begin to execute key strategies.

ORGANIZATIONAL AUDITS

The Organizational Audit, also called a Cycle Audit, is a practical, lean, swift assessment of an organization's capacity in each area of the Cycle: artistic and program planning, marketing, board and "family," fundraising, and other revenue.
The Audit is not a strategic plan; rather its result is a renewed focus on the most salient issues facing an organization and a series of short-term (e.g. one year) recommendations designed to stabilize or strengthen an organization in key areas. The Audit consists of both a rigorous self-diagnosis and deep study by senior Institute consultants.
In addition to the Cycle Audit, the DeVos Institute offers discipline-specific audits in:
Board structure and performance
Financial structure and performance
Marketing
Fundraising
Staffing

Capital Campaigns
The DeVos Institute’s consultants and staff guide organizations on planning successful capital campaigns, facilitating a process that positions clients to reach their goals while building institutional visibility. The Institute's practical and comprehensive services include plans to identify and cultivate prospects through creation of a compelling case statement.
Endowments
The DeVos Institute provides campaign support to organizations that are building—or preparing to create—their endowments.
Programmatic and Institutional Marketing
The DeVos Institute helps organizations compete aggressively for audiences’ attention and loyalty by empowering clients to approach marketing from integrated sales-focused and brand-focused perspectives.

I have personally worked with not for profit organizational consultants and they help you get results.